Take Ownership of Your Sobriety

Embrace your sobriety with pride, acknowledging that the journey can be challenging. Experiencing withdrawal symptoms or battling cravings is common. Many have attempted to quit multiple times, just like I did before finally achieving lasting sobriety.

As Virginia Woolf said, "A self that continues to change is a self that continues to thrive." To foster this change, we must accept complete responsibility for our past choices and future aspirations.

It's easy for many to shift blame onto external factors: parents, bosses, or partners. While valid reasons for turning to alcohol may exist—perhaps stemming from a difficult upbringing—it's important to leave the past behind. Blame is unproductive.

Now, you are taking full charge of your desired future. Let’s build a life that you can take pride in, moving away from the years spent in indulgence. Personally, I chose to start a blog as an outlet. A friend's challenge led me to share my writing on Medium, and here I am, two and a half years later, still evolving, learning, and enjoying the journey.

What passions do you want to pursue? Who do you aspire to be?

Eliminating self-limiting beliefs is crucial. Recognize that you have the capability to manifest your dreams. Leave self-doubt behind and advance with your ambitions.

Caring for Yourself in Early Sobriety

In the initial stages of sobriety, showering yourself with kindness is vital. This could mean prioritizing sleep, enjoying a relaxing massage, or curling up with a warm beverage and a good book. Whatever nurtures you is important.

Once you feel more robust, engage in new projects that contribute to your growth. You might already be tackling exciting challenges.

Commitment to Improvement

To truly enhance your life, it’s essential to take full responsibility for your progress. For instance, after I stopped drinking, I committed to strength training during the pandemic. Over three years later, my body is stronger than it was a decade ago, which brings me immense joy.

I've also embraced activities like pickleball and daily walks with my Golden Retriever, Merlin—habits I rarely engaged in during my drinking days.

Finding joy in exercise is key; otherwise, it's hard to maintain the habit. Working out with a buddy can make it enjoyable and provide accountability.

Nutrition Matters

You’re likely aware of the significance of a balanced diet in maintaining sobriety, both mentally and physically. A diet rich in fruits, vegetables, and proteins supports your alcohol-free lifestyle. Eating well reinforces your determination to stay sober.

Remember, it’s okay to indulge occasionally. I enjoy a bit of chocolate daily, reminding myself that sobriety doesn’t mean deprivation.

Building a Supportive Community

Establishing a solid support network is crucial. Initially, I tackled sobriety solo, immersing myself in countless sober literature. A month into my journey, I attended SMART Recovery meetings, seeking connection with those who understood my struggles.

As months passed, I opened up about my sobriety to friends, some of whom expressed interest in learning more. Sharing my journey through writing on platforms like Medium and AINYF brought me community support, as others resonated with my experiences.

Reach out; you may inspire others just as they motivate you. Each positive step you take contributes to your growth.

Finding Balance in Your Journey

Amidst your efforts, remember that it's not just about filling your day with tasks. True progress comes from fully owning your choices and decisions. Look to the leaders you admire for inspiration.

I drew this philosophy of growth from "The Miracle Morning for Addiction Recovery" by Hal Elrod, Joe Polish, and Anna David.

If you’re seeking help to stop drinking, don’t hesitate to contact SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Service Administration) at 1–800–662-HELP (4357).