Chapter 1: The Illusion of Self-Help

In our quest for solutions, it's almost become second nature to turn to Google or YouTube for answers, even for our health concerns. I, too, have spent countless hours searching online to avoid awkward situations, watching tutorial videos, and accumulating a plethora of self-help books. Like many, I was under the impression that simply having the right information would suffice to enhance my life or resolve my issues, and that this knowledge was easily accessible.

While it’s convenient to explore podcasts, books, or videos for guidance, I've learned that this convenient approach often isn't the most effective. This realization hit me while I was watching the NCAA Track and Field Championships a few weekends ago.

My Dance Journey: Learning the Hard Way

I was first introduced to salsa dancing when a friend invited me to join her class. We focused on a style known as “Rueda De Casino,” which originated in Cuba and is danced on the first beat of the music. Prior to this, I had learned New York salsa, or mambo, which is danced on the second beat.

After relocating to New York in the spring, I was thrilled to discover Bryant Park's weekly dance series. Each week showcased a different dance style, and the city would come alive with live music and dancing outdoors. When the time for 'Salsa week' arrived, my enthusiasm was palpable. However, I was quickly disillusioned; transitioning to the second beat was more challenging than I had anticipated.

Feeling frustrated, I turned to YouTube for assistance a few days later. With “Sunset Salsa” just months away, I had eagerly anticipated this event since I first learned about it. Typically held on a pier overlooking the Hudson River, it was the highlight of the summer salsa scene.

I immersed myself in the available videos and practiced diligently. Although I thought I had improved, my performance at Bryant Park reflected little change. It became clear to me that I needed formal instruction, so I began searching for a qualified teacher.

The Value of Professional Instruction

After a few weeks of research, I found a dance studio that fit my budget and schedule. I was fortunate to find an instructor who had high expectations and pushed his students, allowing me to achieve more in just two weeks than I had in nearly three months of self-study.

I learned that New York style salsa involved much more than simply dancing on the second beat. Unlike the circular Casino style where partners weave around each other, the New York style emphasizes linear movements and incorporates ‘shines’—intricate solo footwork.

After six months of dedicated practice, I had transformed into a competent New York salsero. However, I am fully aware that this transformation would not have been possible without my instructor's guidance.

In a similar vein, athlete Joseph Fahnbulleh, after winning the 200-meter sprint, shared how trusting his coaches played a crucial role in his success, culminating in an unexpected victory in the 100-meter race as well. He expressed deep appreciation for his coaches and encouraged other athletes to embrace such programs if they aspired to excel. He was eventually honored as the USTFCCCA National Outdoor Men’s Track Athlete of the Year.

The Courage to Seek Help

Choosing to work with a coach, instructor, or mentor requires both bravery and humility. Based on my experiences, I can attest that receiving continuous feedback on one’s efforts can be uncomfortable. Yet, the undeniable results and rewards that follow make this temporary discomfort worthwhile.

Chapter 2: The Role of Mentorship in Personal Growth

This new perspective on self-improvement highlights the importance of seeking guidance rather than solely relying on information.