Chapter 1 The Journey to Actualization

In Michael Cunningham's novel, A Home at the End of the World, there’s a poignant moment when a character reaches the Grand Canyon but hesitates to step out of the car. Traveling with two friends amid an argument, she’s also newly pregnant and feeling unwell. Despite her justified struggles, she ultimately questions whether she really drove all that way just to remain parked.

This scenario serves as a powerful metaphor for life. We have all come to this human experience against daunting odds. Are we truly content to remain idle, merely existing? Will we allow our emotions, circumstances, or a series of valid excuses to keep us from experiencing a fulfilling life?

What if the life we desire is just a few steps away? What if the only barrier between us and that life is our willingness to step out of the car and embrace it?

The other night, I turned off my phone before bed but neglected to charge it, waking up to a mere 3% battery. This illustrates that being close to something isn’t the same as fully engaging with it. We often hurt ourselves by being near but not quite connected to what truly matters.

Years ago, I joked with a friend about writing a memoir titled Driving in the Breakdown Lane, later suggesting Limping Toward the Finish Line. However, a title I never shared with her, which resonated deeply, was The Almost Life. This notion of "almost" has haunted me for an extended period.

Athletes often express that receiving a bronze medal can feel less painful than achieving silver, as the sting of nearly winning gold can be overwhelming. Living an almost life—almost happy, almost fulfilled—can be excruciating.

A phone resting beside a charger is not the same as one that is plugged in.

What does it take to traverse the divide from almost to actualized? I ponder this frequently. When I feel the magic of life slipping away, it often stems from a lack of reverence and gratitude. My perspective shifts towards what’s lacking rather than appreciating what is.

The divide is usually not as vast as it seems. Often, it’s a short leap to what we need most. This is the paradox of our existence: we are seldom far from what we truly seek. It often requires a shift in perspective.

So, as summer draws to a close, I encourage you to reflect. Are you parked at the Grand Canyon, burdened by grievances and past troubles?

Find the door handle and step out. Savor the beauty around you. Connect with the essence of life. This extraordinary planet nurtures and supports us. Choose not to live an almost life, but rather one that is abundant and fully realized.

This is your birthright, regardless of your circumstances. You've journeyed this far; don’t forget to relish your time here!

Chapter 2 The Importance of Connection

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